smithn
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Jun 1, 2005, 5:34 AM
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Please don't have sex with your boyfriend. You might think you are ready, but you aren't. Are you also ready to become a mother at the age of 14? It can and does happen no matter how cautious you are. Don't let your boyfriend talk you into this! At 17, he doesn't have all of the answers and I can tell you that he certainly doesn't have a clue on what it's like to be a 17 year old father, having to spend the next 18 years paying child support. If you become pregnant, your entire future will be altered. Your body is not even fully developed. If you gave birth at your age, it could do irreparable harm to your body and you and the child could have all sorts of complications or deformaties. You might not be able to finish high school. You may not ever have the chance to ever go to college or even have the freedom to choose what you want to really do with your life. Have the willpower to say no for the time being. I'm not telling you not to have sex with a boyfriend ever, but I am telling you that you are too young for this right now and not prepared in any way to raise a child alone or with him. Your boyfriend might tell you that he will be careful and that nothing bad will happen or that you will never get pregnant.... this is not true! If you are on the pill, you can still become pregnant (I had two children while regularly taking the pill - thank God I was married!). If your boyfriend says he will pull out, you can still become pregnant if even a trace of semen is "accidentally" left inside. If he says he will use a condom, then it could break. If you give in to this, you are taking a huge risk and you have to be prepared for the consequences. If he truly loves you, he would not pressure you into this! Realize that throughout your life that if ANYONE pressures you to do ANYTHING for any reason at all (sexual or otherwise), they are being selfish and not truly caring about your thoughts or morals. You do what's right for YOU, not for him. You say you are worried that you might cheat on him if you end up liking it. Of course you will like it - it's human nature but you have your whole adult lifetime to like it and enjoy it as often as you want to but not at age 14! This might sound really corny to you but this is what I truly believe: Have you ever wondered about how your conscience plays a part in your decisions? I believe God uses the Holy Spirit (I know it's corny to bring up religion but bare with me) as a way of being in constant contact with us. As you go through your life, you will be faced with many decisions (tests, temptations). The inner voice inside of you (like the one you have right now) that is making you question on whether or not this is a good idea for you to do, is this Spirit working within your conscience, leading you to make a decision to do right or wrong. You have the complete power to make your own decision and what is so great is that this is a simple one - saying either yes or no to your boyfriend. Notice that when you make snap decisions in your life, your conscience isn't involved because you already KNOW you are making the right decisions. When your conscience is troubling you, then chances are you need to re-think your situation and decide what's best for you in the long run. Think about all of the good things this situation could bring you and then compare it to all of the bad or negative things. In your case, the negative outbalances the good, doesn't it! Buy your boyfriend a shirt for his birthday - it's a lot cheaper than diapers!
(This post was edited by smithn on Jun 2, 2005, 5:21 PM)
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